On a downtown A train recently, I sat opposite a couple in a curiously intense embrace. For the seven-stop express ride down Central Park West, the subway system’s longest held breath, these two sat locked together in the molded seats. Their heads were bent into each other, faces fully smushed against cheek and neck-skin. She had curled her body into his chest and he had wrapped his arms around her back. His knuckles were white. The privacy curtain of her hair fell around his shoulders. They did not move. Next to them, they had one of those rolling frames with telescoping handles, on which balanced a large cardboard box and a plastic pet carrier, secured with bungee cords. As the train shifted near 42nd Street, the animal in the carrier moved, and its fur brushed up against the air holes.
My companion at the time, who had been reading, and who I don’t think had noticed the couple, glanced up. “Oh, look — there’s a kitty,” he said. The man’s head snapped up, and he looked right at us. He looked at us hard. There were tear tracks on his face. I wanted to tell him in that moment that I was sorry — for seeing him, for failing to have the courtesy to convincingly pretend not to be seeing him, for living in the kind of city where people occasionally have to do their private things in public, for breaking that city’s taboo against noticing same, for my thoughtlessness and for my rubbernecking and for my finding his intense and intensely personal tableau strangely moving, for aestheticizing him, I wanted to apologize for all of that — but instead I got off at 34th Street and continued on my way.





